adoption
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Many adoptees state that because they do not know about their biological background, it is very hard for them to connect to the rest of the world; they feel they do not come from a specific person or place. They are constantly reminded by society that they are different from the majority that can easily identify from where and from whom they come from. This inability to fully integrate their background makes adoptees feel that they are missing part of their identity. Adoptees should be granted the freedom to choose if they want to meet or know who their birth parents are for three reasons, always that the birth parents agree on it: One reason is that adoptees can suffer all their lives by feeling that their identity is incomplete since they do not know about their biological background. The second reason is that there could be health issues that an adoptee should be aware of, to prevent hereditary problems and the third reason is to give an opportunity to the birth parents that feel a need to explain their child why they gave him/her in to adoption.
According to Goffman (1963), adoptees should meet their birth parents as a way to gain greater social acceptability from others and neutralize their social stigma, which is a process of social discrimination in which individuals are discredited for having unusual physical or social characteristics. Once adoptees meet their parents they can understand much more about themselves and they feel peace in being able to explain to others about their backgrounds. In an interview with an adoptee that meet for the first time her birth mother she expressed: "When I met her, I felt this absolute peace. I looked at her and I thought, 'This is who I'm like. This is what I will look like when I am old...